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Six Tips To Help Severe Social Phobia


I'd like to share a frightening moment that I experienced as an anxiety sufferer with you. It can often times be hard to understand what someone with anxiety goes through on a daily basis. Let me assure you, that although I know the fear is completely irrational, at the time it occurs, it feels very real.
Taking a deep breath, I walk into the waiting room of the Doctor's Office. It's full of people and I can feel the panic rising in my throat but my appointment is any minute now and I have to check myself in.Standing in the queue at the reception desk, I try my hardest not to think about the waiting room full of people who I am convinced are all staring at me, laughing at me and mocking me.
When the receptionist calls me forward, I gingerly walk up to the reception desk and in a shaky voice and as softly as I can, I tell her my name and what I am there for. She asks me to take a seat, the panic starts to rise again, as now I know I will have to turn around and face all these people.
Surprisingly, when I do turn around, not a single person is looking at me. They are all either reading a book, listening to music on their cell phones or just staring into space waiting to be called.
I choose a seat right in the front, that way I won't have to walk past rows of people. I sit in my chair, concentrating on doing silent deep breathing to prevent hyperventilation. I look up as more people enter the medical centre. I can feel myself frown at them as I look over at each of them. All standing there in the queue, all looking so normal, all looking as calm as anything, completely unaware as to the fact that I am so social phobic at this point in time that I want to die.
To add to my misery, is a big electronic board up front which will state my name and the room I need to go to any minute now. Immediately, I wish it didn't do that. I don't want to get up and walk in front of all these people. What if I trip? What if they laugh at me? What if I can't find the correct room?
Almost within a few seconds, I see my name 'Mrs M Bonthuys - Room E'. I get up, and a few heads look up as they want to see who Mrs M Bonthuys is, which aggravates me even more. I'm still doing my deep breathing and say Room E over and over again in my head. I follow the signs on the wall, just hoping to find my way, once I turn into a quiet passageway, away from all the people, I can feel some of my anxiety releasing.
As I enter the nurse's room, she greets me and motions for me to sit down. I collapse into the chair, while the nurse, who is scrolling through my files on the computer is blissfully unaware of what emotional turmoil I have just been through.
The above piece is a true story, of what happened to me on a visit to the doctor's office about 2 years ago. I will always remember this story as being one of my worst social phobia moments ever! Although social phobia or social anxiety is a very unpleasant experience, it can be dealt with. Had I known these simple tricks back then, I might have been able to reduce my anxiety quite substantially.
To define this condition more accurately, social phobia or social anxiety is a fear of being made a fool of in front of people, being embarrassed or humiliated, or just plain and simple fear of being around people and/or in public spaces. Social Phobia can make people so afraid of going out in public that they become imprisoned in their homes. Around 15 million adults in the USA alone suffer with Social Anxiety.
Here are my six tips to help severe social phobia that have helped me personally:
  • Play soothing music or affirmations from your cell phone and connect it to some earphones. This creates a 'detached' impression as you cannot hear the outside world.

  • Wear sunglasses. This creates a 'if I can't see you, then you can't see me' impression.

  • Try to go out early morning or later at night. There are less people about. I especially love using this tip when grocery shopping.

  • This next tip is obviously not always possible, but if and when you can, take someone along with you that you trust when having to go out into public.

  • Smile at someone! I know this may seem strange, but once, on one of my many social phobic occasions, a random stranger met my gaze and smiled at me. I cannot begin to explain how much that stranger helped soothe my social phobia at that time just because she had smiled at me. So to make someone instantly smile at you - smile at them.

  • This last point isn't really a tip, but more of a reality check that I am still trying to drum into myself. The simple truth of it all is that no one actually cares what you are doing. Everyone is too wrapped up in their own world to even notice you. This is rational thinking, but since anxiety sufferer's base all their thoughts around irrational thinking, I won't blame you if you let this last one slide! As I said, I'm still having trouble with it myself.

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